Charlie's Blog: July 2026

7.19.2026

Blood Is Not Thicker Than Water

Family will f*** you before a stranger will.
A STRANGER

I was in a bad situation because of my family members and their betrayal when a kind lady who could not help me sympathized with me and uttered those words to me. I have never forgotten them, and I never will. Despite not being able to help me, she gave me the best wisdom I have ever received from a total stranger. I could tell that she had been through something similar and retained some bitterness from her own trials. This is why she dropped that F-bomb.

This stranger told me a truth that I am now going to share with you, Gentle Reader. Blood is not thicker than water. In fact, the people who will do you the most harm in life are your own family members. As Seanan McGuire put it,

Blood is thicker than water, but family isn’t just about blood. Family is about faith, and loyalty, and who you love. If you don’t have those things, I don’t care what the blood says. You’re not family.

Trust in others is only as good as the virtue of those you trust. I have had friends who have been more family to me than my own family. I have had family members who were worse than any enemy I have encountered in life. What made them worse was my naivete about their true natures.

Your appraisal of others needs to be based upon their virtues as human beings. Good people do good. Bad people do bad. Being your kin does not change this fundamental truth. Never trust bad people. You can forgive them, and you should. But nothing says that you should ever trust them again.

I was never a fan of the primetime soap opera, Dallas. I don't even recall ever watching it. But I do remember the Ewing family was a bucket of snakes. This was the source of the drama in the series. It was a fictional show, but I have heard similar tales from real world families. In the UK and Europe, royalty was essentially what the Ewing family was in the States. Even today, you witness the treachery of these people.

Trust has to be earned. Once trust has been lost, it should never be given again. You will save yourself a lot of hurt in this life if you remember these two rules and always follow them.

As an epilogue, I was able to get out of my situation with the help of another family member who had a heart of gold. I will always be grateful to her. But I could no longer trust her when she told me to forget the two rules I just shared with you. She expected me to forget what had been done to me. I knew better. She said she didn't think she could help me again if I found myself in that same jam again. Then, she told me to get in that same jam again. I ignored her and remembered what the stranger told me. I have never been in that situation again. I intend to keep it that way.

7.12.2026

More

Pleasure knows no increase only variety.
EPICURUS

I love cheap beer and cheap cigars. I do not drink alcohol or smoke tobacco. I just like how these cheap pleasures piss off the rich guys with their 12 year old scotch and $50 cigars. The rich desperately want to believe that their wealth buys them more in life. Having a lot of money should get you something more in life, but it doesn't. The blue collar guy drinking PBR and smoking a White Owl proves that truth.

People with a hedonistic streak want more out of life. You can't get more out of life. You can vary your pleasures, but you can never increase them. This doesn't keep them from trying. The pursuit for more comes down to chasing quantity or quality or a combination of the two things. I call the ones that excessively pursue these pleasures the "Hogs of Human Experience." The concept of enough does not exist in their minds.

Pleasure comes down to the elimination of pain. When you are hungry, food tastes better than when you are not hungry. This is why they say that hunger is the best sauce. Likewise, entertainment comes down to the alleviation of boredom. Sleep is the remedy for exhaustion. Epicurus taught that we should seek a state where all pain and disturbance was eliminated from life in a state known as "ataraxia." I don't think it is possible to eliminate all pain and disturbance from this life. I think it is possible to have moments of relief from pain and disturbance. For me, all pleasure comes down to finding temporary relief from momentary pain. You can't count on always getting that relief, but you can always count on the pain. I think Epicurus discovered this when he was dying from that kidney stone.

When people discover the relief from their pain and suffering, they naturally want to maximize it which is how you get the desire for more. These people do not realize or acknowledge that there is a finite limit to the pleasures of life. Ultimately, these people are godless and want relief for their souls which can never be found in worldly pleasures.

I believe God gives relief to the poor but denies it to the rich. I believe that being poor puts you in a better position to experience this relief as complex pleasures bring more pain than they are worth. I appreciate the engineering and craftsmanship of a fine Rolex watch, but I am sticking with my cheap Casio beater watch that tells better time and makes me unafraid to lose it or damage it.

I remember my old man going to watch NASCAR races with his friends from work. Then, he stopped doing that around the time he got cable TV and ESPN. He candidly admitted that it was more pleasurable and less hassle to watch the race on the tube than to physically be there with the heat, the noise, the drunks, and trying to listen to the coverage on his radio headphones. Why go to an event that you can watch more easily on TV for a fraction of the price while enjoying the convenience of your own kitchen and bathroom? This comes down to bragging rights. For some reason, we believe or want to believe that people get more from the actual live event than following it on the television or the radio. This is also why people desperately take selfies to post on Facebook and Instagram of them doing fabulous things in life. But are they fabulous? We know better.

I remember my old man drinking Black Label beer, smoking Marlboros, and eating popcorn and peanut brittle while watching stock car races, football games, and Gunsmoke from the comfort of his ratty recliner with the cigarette burns in the seat. I think he lived like a king. He had a lot of pain and suffering in his life, but he wasn't too poor or busy to enjoy a few hours in that chair. He had enough.

Today, I witness the Hogs of Human Experience blow money they don't have chasing pleasures and vanities they can't afford. I am not into going on cruises to the Bahamas or Alaska or pretending to be a kid again at Disneyworld. I have done things like this, and they are overrated. I know that I am missing out on nothing that this life offers. This is because this life has nothing to offer.

My life comes down to God, enduring my suffering as a penance, and finding momentary relief from it all in the simplest of pleasures. The biggest pain in my life are those Hogs of Human Experience. I must be candid and say that I don't like these people or care to hang out with them in their pursuit of more. They have a real knack for ruining a good thing.

If the guys sipping cheap beer and smoking cheap cigars are missing out on anything, they don't know it. The Hogs of Human Experience want them to know it which is why they post endlessly on social media. These fools want to deceive others and themselves with their social media posts and "influencing." The real key to enjoying life is the ability to not care what others think about you. I know my old man didn't care. The reality of simple pleasures beats the fantasies of people who always want more and find no satisfaction.

7.05.2026

Dedicated Devices

An iPod, a phone, an internet mobile communicator... these are NOT three separate devices! And we are calling it iPhone! Today Apple is going to reinvent the phone. And here it is.
STEVE JOBS

I asked myself a question. What cellphone did Steve Jobs use before the iPhone? I did some googling, and the best answer I got was a Motorola Razr V3 which was a sleek flip phone. Later, Apple would collaborate on the Motorola Rokr E1 device which left Jobs very dissatisfied and spurred the creation of the iPhone. Jobs's primary frustration was carrying around two devices in his pocket--a cellphone and an iPod. He wanted a single device that did both things. Was that a genius move? I don't think so because people now drop over a grand every couple of years for what amounts to a convenience. Ironically, few if any of those devices fit in your pocket at all now. All I see are people walking around with slabs of glass and metal in side holsters like some geeky version of Billy the Kid. An old school Razr and an iPod would be easier to carry around than these gigantic smartphones.

My flip phone rides in my front shirt pocket. I like shirts with two pockets when I can get them. This allows me the room to carry my folding reading glasses, my rosary beads, and other items. I don't own an iPod or carry around any personal music or gaming devices. I have an old Sony Walkman for listening to the radio that never leaves my nightstand. My gaming amounts to playing Freecell on the Chromebook. When I am in the world without distraction, I just look, listen, and observe what is around me. I realize that the prospect of enduring that kind of boredom fills the Gentle Reader with dread.

One of the trends you see online is the adoption of what is called an "analog bag." Women do this mostly as they carry around things like books, notebooks, knitting, puzzle books, and whatnot as items of distraction in the absence of a smartphone. I had to laugh at the smart aleck on the digital minimalism reddit who quipped that using a Gameboy in lieu of a smartphone isn't living without distractions. This is correct. A paperback book you carry around in your pocket takes you out of the world just as much as doom scrolling social media on your iPhone. I lived in a time when people regularly filled their waiting time reading newspapers and magazines. I even witnessed a guy in the 1990s reading the newspaper behind the steering wheel of his car while driving to work.

Distracted living didn't begin with the smartphone, but it definitely got a boost. Much of the addiction of these devices comes from the social media. I doubt people are driving distracted while reading the Google News page. Most people's smartphone addictions can be remedied by deleting the social media accounts and apps. People like me who use flip phones have an easier time with this. The problem with a dumbphone is that you are missing some useful tools that even the original iPhone didn't have.

If you look at EDCs of people on the digital minimalism and dumbphone reddits, you will see their dumbphone along with a collection of dedicated devices that fill those missing gaps. One of the most prominent ones will be an old school point-and-shoot digital camera like a Sony Cyber Shot or a Panasonic Lumix. The next device will be some sort of mp3 music player like an original iPod. Sometimes, you see a handheld gaming device like a paleolithic Nintendo Gameboy. Finally, everyone has some form of paper notebook for writing down things, but you see that in the EDCs of people who have smartphones. You can't beat paper.

For myself, I just carry a flip phone when I am out and about. I don't listen to music on a device. Sometimes, I carry a homemade notebook for writing down ideas, but I also use the notes tool on my flip phone to capture an idea or reminder. This is very helpful at night when an idea comes to me, and I don't want to turn on the bedside lamp. The flip phone has its own illumination, and I just type in a personal memo.

When I am traveling, I carry dedicated devices along with books in my analog bag which is a backpack. I travel rarely now, but I make sure to have my Kindle and my Walkman. I can download and play mp3 files on my flip phone, but I don't. The wife will bring her Chromebook for the trip which is our internet connected device. Finally, we navigate with a Garmin GPS. We are in suspended animation from the year 2007 when the iPhone came out. Recently, I broke down and bought her a Kodak Pixpro FZ45 digital camera which is the closest thing I could find to the point-and-shoot digital cameras from the 2000s era. The alternative was to gamble on some used equipment from fleaBay.

The argument from smartphone users is that carrying around all of these dedicated devices is a pain in the ass. I have already pointed out that the modern smartphone no longer fits in a standard pocket. I have seen some people jam it in the back pocket of a pair of jeans which lends itself to popping out or getting sat upon and broken. When the smartphone gets busted, you lose not just one device but also your camera, music player, GPS, and gaming device. This amounts to putting all of your tech eggs in one basket.

Another argument that smartphones users make is that having a single device is cheaper than owning multiple dedicated devices. Is this really the case? I broke down the math:

SMARTPHONE
Apple iPhone 17 Pro Max (Verizon): $1199.99

DEDICATED DEVICES
Kyocera DuraXV Extreme+ (Verizon): $250
Acer Chromebook (Walmart): $159
Kodak Pixpro FZ45 (Amazon): $120
C.Crane CC Pocket Radio (Amazon): $75
Garmin GPS Drive 53 Navigator (Amazon): $110
TOTAL: $714

Right out of the gate, you can see that the basket of dedicated devices is the cheaper way to go. Now, I picked the devices relative to my situation. Yours may differ. You may pick an mp3 player which can be had for less than a C.Crane Pocket Radio. I don't own a C.Crane, but it is the radio I selected to replace my Sony Walkman radio should that time ever come. Additionally, these dedicated devices last a long time. They don't get bricked in the forced obsolescence that Apple does when you update the software on your iPhone. People are hanging on to their iPhones for longer for obvious reasons, but the average time of replacement is 2 to 3 years. I also don't include the cost of insurance for the device, an iPhone case like the Otter Box for $30, and the Apple Airpods for $100.

If you amortize the cost of an iPhone over the expected course of 2 years, the device will cost you $600 annually. If you squeeze it for three years, it will be $400 per year. The dedicated devices have various lifespans, but I think it is reasonable to expect 10 years of service out of those devices on average collectively. This amounts to $71.40 annually. Dedicated devices are overwhelmingly the cheaper option.

What about Android smartphones? Flagship phones like the Google Pixel and the Samsung Galaxy have a similar price tag to the iPhone. Now, you can buy cheaper smartphones, and the Android universe has phones at more price points than Apple. But like the iPhone, the average lifespan for Android phones is 2-3 years because of the battery. The cool thing about my flip phone is that I can replace the battery when needed with little trouble. Smartphones require professional assistance on the battery replacement. The one thing I can say is that an Android smartphone is the cheaper option to the Apple iPhone but not by much.

Apple's Insidious Strategy

The genesis of this post came from watching Van Neistat wish that Apple still made the iPod. The iPod was an awesome device that brought back Apple from the dead. People still use them today along with various other models from competitors like SanDisk and Sony. Why did Apple stop making the iPod? The answer is obvious. They wanted to force their cult members to buy expensive iPhones, and it worked and still works today.

The great secret to Apple's success is they eliminate options. This began with deleting disc drives from their computers. It continued with getting rid of ports on their Macbooks for various peripherals. They got rid of the headphone jack to force people to buy Airpods. And this is why the iPod had to die. Meanwhile, Apple now offers new dedicated devices like the iPad and the Apple Watch. People have correctly pointed out that these devices are redundant because of the iPhone. If I was an Apple cult member, I would only have an iPhone and a Macbook. Instead, I use a flip phone and a Chromebook at a fraction of the price. I despise smartwatches and tablets.

The smartphone is a convenience, but 7-11 stores and fast food are also conveniences. The problem with convenience is that it is expensive. Eventually, it isn't even convenient anymore as brown bagging your lunch takes less time and hassle than waiting in line at these places to order and receive your food. Somewhere, people figure this out and make the adjustment back to common sense.

This adjustment is beginning to happen with the smartphone. The reason a dumbphone is so good at breaking smartphone addiction is because of the friction of using the dumb device. I could access the same social media stuff on my Chromebook or PC, but I have to let that go when I step away from my desk. That separation is liberation from a bad habit. The smartphone eliminates that separation as the internet becomes always available at your fingertips.

My advice to people is to dial it back to 2007 when people used flip phones and dedicated devices. Get yourself an analog bag with some physical books and a notebook. Escape from the smartphone prison and the Apple cult. Trust me, you will always have your distractions when you want them, but you will access them more intentionally and with greater deliberation. The rest of the time amounts to situational awareness and greater focus on the tasks at hand. This is very important when driving a car but is also great when you are sitting down with friends for coffee and a conversation. Sometimes, you need to come up for air.

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