Charlie's Blog: March 2026

3.29.2026

How We Got The Extreme Path Of Fitness

Whoever cultivates the golden mean avoids both the poverty of a hovel and the envy of a palace.
HORACE

The genesis of this post comes from the opening credits of Murder, She Wrote when Jessica Fletcher goes by riding her old school upright bicycle with the basket on the front. She is also seen jogging in old gray sweats. The show is from the 1980s and straddles the divide I see between fitness in the 1950s and the 1970s. This is when fitness evolved into the extreme path that I see today. This is in opposition to The Gentle Path I recommend. How did we get to the extreme path? And what has been the result of that extreme path?

1950s Fitness

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Fitness in the 1950s was a basic affair. It was mostly people riding upright style bicycles as seen in the picture above with baskets, fenders, and a chain guard. Those bikes were utilitarian, practical, and comfortable. With a comfortable bicycle, you end up riding it more. It is a no-brainer. Similarly, people would go hiking or for long walks in the park. They built strength with mostly calisthenics in the style and philosophy of Jack LaLanne. Running was mostly for 2 miles or less to qualify for US Army fitness standards. People used canoes instead of kayaks. They gardened and did manual labor. Exercise and fitness were not taken as seriously as today.

The irony of those times was that the average fitness of the population was higher than today. The evidence for this were those US Army fitness standards that few recruits had trouble meeting in those days. Fast forward to our time, and you see those recruits struggling to meet the standards even after they have been dumbed down. How did we get here? I think we got here because fitness turned extreme.

1970s Fitness

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I remember as a kid in middle school upgrading from my Huffy BMX bike to my old man's old school upright bike. It had the fenders, the chain guard, the 3 speed hub, and normal handlebars. I was too short for the thing at the time, but I still managed to ride it. It was embarrassing because it was an old man's bike. In hindsight, I realize that bike was simply awesome. I was too young and dumb to appreciate it at the time.

I got a department store 10 speed bike later, and it was cooler than the old man bike. I could count on my hands going numb and my shoulders aching as I rode hunched over the drop handlebars. My pants would get caught in the chain and the gear because it didn't have a guard on it. All of the dirt and mud would fly up on me from the lack of fenders. Riding the thing was miserable, but it was OK because I had a "real" bicycle. When I got a mountain bike in my 20s, it was no better than that 10 speed bike. Both bikes were uncomfortable and impractical. As a consequence, I rode them hardly at all and got rid of them.

The change in popular bikes is the best example I have of the change in the mindset of people from the 1950s to the 1970s. The 10 speed was sportier and more athletic. The average Joe could pretend to be a Tour de France rider. When the fantasy wore off, he was stuck with a bike unfit to ride on a daily basis. Unfortunately, the new mindset stuck. This was the extreme path of fitness.

The 1970s was when the bodybuilding craze got going along with the running boom. People like Frank Shorter, Bill Rodgers, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and Bruce Lee entered the popular imagination and became fitness icons to a generation. Marathon training replaced walking. Bench pressing replaced push ups. And being lean took a backseat to getting ripped. For those willing to take this new extreme path, there were results. For everyone else, they threw in the towel and chose to watch the athletes on TV while eating chips on the couch.

The extreme path continued after the 1970s with the Ironman Triathlon, the ultramarathon, and CrossFit. The average fitness of people today in the USA is dismally low as the extremity of fitness has increased. Compare this to the average fitness of people in Denmark which is very high. People blame technology, but I think the cause is cultural. Denmark didn't embrace extreme fitness like the USA did. Those Danes still ride their upright bikes and do other sorts of common physical activities like the USA did in the 1950s.

When you take something that is fun and feels good and turn it into something like torture, people don't want to do it anymore. so they don't. It's popular to castigate these people as lazy fat asses, but that ignores the obvious cause of the fitness decline. People have lost the common sense that comes from moderation. Why must gain always come with pain?

The Way Back

I don't care to ride a bike now because of my brain injury. My balance is poor, and I would probably smash my head again. But if I did ride a bike again, it would be one of those old school upright bikes I mentioned. Comfort is key. The same is also true of a canoe versus a kayak. I remember wanting to get into sea kayaking at one time in my twenties. That was stupid. I would have flipped over in the water and drowned. But I could paddle a canoe.

I think the way back requires a change in the mindset of the general public. The extreme path appeals to a person's vanity. The gentle path requires humility. You have to desire modesty in your fitness. You have to actually want to enjoy your physical activities as opposed to punishing yourself.

One of the things that has helped me is to see the extreme fitness people as complete idiots.  I remember an iconic photo that I won't post here of a distance runner who had massive diarrhea during his race, but he completed the race with fecal matter covering his leg. For some people, they admired his dedication to completing the event. For me, I think it was utterly stupid.

One of the things I miss is seeing the senior citizens walking the mall. Many had scheduled walks early in the morning before the stores opened where these folks could get in their steps without battling the weather. I don't know if that exists now as malls have been overtaken by hood rats. But the mall walkers epitomized the gentle path I recommend.

The other thing I miss seeing is old school calisthenics like we did in PE class back in school. For some reason, people think they need heavy weights and a gym membership to build strength. With calisthenics, you can get strong at a price you can afford-->FREE! And they work. I've seen senior citizens go from being crippled to being mobile again with simple bodyweight exercises. Many of them are done while sitting in a chair.

The last thing I applaud is people doing manual labor like cleaning their homes, mowing their lawns, or tending their gardens without paying professionals to do this work for them. It has been lost on people that physical labor is good exercise. Instead, they pay someone to do their labor while they pay a gym to go be a gerbil on their wheels. This is crazy.

I think the gentle path has the added benefit of being something someone can actually stick to doing. I have walked more miles as a fitness walker than I ever ran as a jogger. The secret was that I enjoyed those walks. I don't recall ever enjoying a run. The only pleasure in running is stopping.

The last thing I want to include is a warning. The extreme path mindset creeps back in if you are not aware of it. I call this "Failed Runner Syndrome." This is when you compulsively log your steps on your fitness tracker and upload it to Strava. This is vanity. With it comes the compulsion to walk a certain number of steps each day and to increase those steps. It becomes a game of more more MORE. The secret to the gentle path of fitness is knowing when to quit. Those extremists didn't know when to quit.

Conclusion

I don't know of anyone who is pushing back on the extreme path of fitness culture. There are people who walk for fitness and do calisthenics, but they never speak out against the extremism. Maybe they don't want to be negative, but I think it would help if more people sounded off about this topic. It is always the folks on the extreme ends of a topic who speak with the loudest voices. I think those on the middle path of moderation need to speak up more in defense of common sense. 

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Fitness In The 1950s Was...Different

Get Physical in 1950s - Getting Ready Physically (1951) - CharlieDeanArchives / Archival Footage

1974: MUSCLE MANIA - Inside a '70s Gym | Open Door | Voice of the People | BBC Archive

The unexpected benefits of an upright Dutch bike

UPDATE #1: I saw this article recently and had to chuckle:

LA Marathon Runners Given Option to Receive Medals Before Finishing the Race: ‘If They’ve Had a Tough Day’

I thought about scouring the combox for the juicy comments, but they are redundant. This dumbing down of the marathon is a symptom of the extreme path of fitness. People want the trophy and the medal, but they don't want the suffering that goes with it. Most of the derisive comments are directed towards the "weakness" and "softness" of the people that just want the participation reward. I am actually on the side of those people who don't want to run a full marathon or even run at all. I think marathon running is utterly stupid. Go for a walk instead and forget about trying to get recognition for your efforts or pretend to be a competitive athlete. This is vanity.

Our culture has trained entire generations to do this stupid stuff. I suspect that most of these people will return to their couches regardless of what they did in the marathon. You are either a masochist or a slug. There is nothing in between those extremes.

The combox comments castigate the people that don't finish the entire distance, but I save my derision for the 90% of the participants who filled out the entry form and paid the fee who will take 3 to 5 hours to cover the distance. The reason they hand out the participation trophies is to get these slowpokes off of the race course. Otherwise, these idiots will just keep tying everything up in desperation to not be labelled as quitters. This is also why I am against fitness walkers participating in the local 5K to satisfy their failed runner syndrome. YOU ARE NOT AN ATHLETE! Get over it.

UPDATE #2: In 1960, President John F. Kennedy issued a warning to Americans:

“A single look at the packed parking lot of the average high school will tell us what has happened to the traditional hike to school that helped to build young bodies. The television set, the movies and the myriad conveniences and distractions of modern life all lure our young people away from the strenuous physical activity that is the basis of fitness in youth and in later life,” wrote Kennedy.

Inspired by a challenge from Teddy Roosevelt to his Marines to cover 50 miles in less than 20 hours over three days, JFK issued a similar challenge in 1963, and this became the genesis of the JFK 50 Miler. It was essentially a hike or march with a military bearing in mind. The president's brother Robert took up the challenge, did the 50 miles wearing Oxford dress shoes, and completed the challenge in 17 hours and 50 minutes.

The 50 miler began as a walking event. Somewhere, it morphed from being a hike in the spirit of fitness from the 1950s to a foot race in the extreme fitness spirit of the 1970s. Today, the JFK 50 Miler is a running event and not a walking event and is considered the oldest ultramarathon in America. The original aim of the event was lost.

There are some walkers who have taken back the original spirit of the 50 mile challenge with events that are aimed at walkers and not runners. These videos show the contrast between walking and running this distance.

Kennedy 50 Mile Walk - 2023

Either PR or ER

These two videos show the contrast that I am talking about. I find the walking version more pleasant and appealing.

UPDATE #3: I would be remiss if I didn't include this video of bodybuilders versus a construction worker on a strength test:

Construction Worker Vs Bodybuilders

Muscles for working beat steroid fueled muscles for aesthetics. How do you get those work muscles? You get them from old fashioned work. Physical labor is something else we lost since the 1950s. We need to bring that back, too.

3.22.2026

Clickbait Fatigue

 I came. I saw. You won't believe what happened next!
JULIUS CAESAR AS A CLICKBAITER

I am not into clickbait either as a writer or as a reader. I grew up reading the newspaper where the headline and first sentence of a news article got to the kernel of the story. If you wanted more details, you kept reading. You could break off at any point and still be reasonably informed. The strategy behind this structure was that they already had your attention because you were holding the paper in your hand. The next step was to deliver as quickly as possible on that purchase. If they didn't, you might switch to another newspaper.

Today, people don't buy newspapers. They read headlines and click on the ones that interest them. Or, they don't click at all. Website publishers are desperate for those clicks because they generate ad revenue. Everything is geared to get the reader to follow through on a click. If the vital information is already contained in the headline, the reader may opt to not click. So, we get the baited headline that stirs curiosity. The reader clicks through and often scrolls to the bottom of the article to satisfy the curiosity. The article goes unread, but it doesn't matter. The website got its click. For the rest of us, we are annoyed at the abuse of our attention.

This failure to deliver on the vital information extends to YouTube videos and is so bad that people in the combox timestamp when the YouTuber gets to the information that you want. I remember one video that never delivered on the clickbait. These people love to waste your time and attention.

The most annoying aspect is when the clickbait enters the real world of our conversations. This would be the friend that leaves a clickbait voice message or text message saying something just happened. Please call me, so I can waste a few hours of your life talking about what amounts to nothing. The other thing is when someone talks to you and asks you to play the guessing game in an annoying attempt to stoke your attention. I am so fatigued with this crap that I immediately ignore these people.

These folks don't see that the internet is socializing them to be this way. They spend too much time on social media such that it has warped their social skills in a negative way. My way is like a newspaper. I give you the headline. I deliver the details. I don't waste your time trying to milk your attention. Most people ignore me, and I am fine with that. I am not a whore for attention.

This, Gentle Reader, is just another data point in my argument for why you need to get offline and live like a real human being again. If you have noticed the erosion of social skills in the general population, you are most likely part of the problem. Get off your phone and come up for air.

3.15.2026

The Errors Of The Catholic Land Movement

New York is a rat race, and the rats are winning.
OLIVER DOUGLAS, Green Acres

I am not a fan of the old Green Acres TV show, but I do remember Oliver Douglas leaving his conventional life in the city for the more intentional life of being a farmer in the country. I think living more intentionally is laudable. People yearn for a simpler life, and life in the country promises that simplicity.

This return to an agrarian way of life has had many flavors. You have the Amish who live much like they did in previous centuries. You have right wing conservatives who homestead as a way of prepping for social collapse. You have hippies who took inspiration from The Whole Earth Catalog and Mother Earth News. I have seen agrarian movements among Protestants and the Orthodox. Then, there is the creature known as the Catholic Land Movement.

CLM adherents tend to be traditionalist Catholics favoring the Latin Mass and reverent forms of piety. They tend to have large families, and their desire to return to the land comes from a wish to spend more time with those families while also feeding them. What could be wrong with that? The problem is that many who obey the call to return to the land find the dream does not match the reality. They make critical errors that doom them to failure. These are the errors I see in the Catholic Land Movement.

1. G.K. Chesterton was a city slicker and a socialist.

When you listen to Catholic Land Movement speakers, you will hear G.K. Chesterton's name and quotations repeated. I think it is safe to say that Chesterton is the intellectual father of the CLM and Distributism. The problem with Chesterton is that he never actually practiced what he preached. He never farmed or milked a cow or even had children. Why does this matter? Men such as this are detached from the reality of what they are advocating. I am a big believer in empirical data which means getting your hands dirty with the actual doing of the thing and not merely the teaching of the thing. Those who actually have taken up the call to return to the land report a different experience after the shine of the fantasy has worn off.

It was Timothy Gordon who pointed out that Chesterton was a Fabian socialist and argues that Distributism is essentially a socialist system at its core. I agree with Gordon. On paper, Distributism sounds splendid with its advocacy of widespread property ownership. The problems come when trying to create that order of widespread property ownership. This is when Distributism becomes redistributism which is utterly socialist.

Why does this matter? Socialism is an unworkable fantasy. History is replete with what happens with socialism with the advocates excusing its failure by saying the socialism wasn't done the right way. From my perspective, Distributism is an attempt to do socialism the right way. I don't think such a right way can ever exist.

Because of Chesterton, the Catholic Land Movement amounts to a sales job for a load of shit. Don't listen to the salespeople. Listen to the people who have actually done it. These people find out why people left the farm for city life. City life is less work and smells better.

2. Meat, dairy, and eggs are bad for your health and wallet.

I went on a plant based diet back in 2012 and have remained on it to the present day. I am happy to report that you will not starve to death abstaining from meat, dairy, and eggs. Your health will improve, and your grocery bill will decrease. People who adhere to meat based eating will disagree, but these folks are not reading the information that made me switch to this way of eating. Like most idiots, they read the information that confirms and reaffirms their bias instead of looking at the empirical data. What does this have to do with the Catholic Land Movement?

Whenever I see anything involving a Catholic homesteader, it involves meat. CLM advocates love beef, pork, lamb, chicken, eggs, cheese, and on and on. After the Chestertonian propaganda at a CLM conference, the next most popular topic involves butchering meat. I think it is safe to say that CLM people are meatheads. That love of meat and animal products is the Achilles heel of their movement.

Raising livestock for food is labor intensive and expensive. You can neglect your vegetable garden in the winter, but your animals have to keep eating. To feed those animals, you have to either grow feed or buy feed for those animals. This amounts to buying groceries to feed to your groceries. I think this is just utterly stupid. I still can't wrap my brain around the economics of this. As vegan advocates point out, it is cheaper (and more ethical) to feed the grain to humans than to cattle for the sake of eating filet mignon. Whether you agree or disagree with those tree hugging hippie types, they make a valid point. Meat eats up resources and real estate. Feeding cows and pigs takes way more food than feeding your kids. The acreage needed for a vegetable garden to feed a family is small in comparison to the acreage needed to feed livestock.

What is the result of this meat focused agrarianism? This would be poor health and poverty. On a personal level, raising and eating meat is unsustainable. Whenever I see someone doing this sort of thing, I always want to see the numbers which would be the ledger book for their finances and the numbers for their blood work.

The bottom line is that meat is a luxury. In our current first world existence, this truth is anathema. Yet, historically, meat was consumed only on special occasions and not three times a day in the present world. The portions were also much smaller. Meat was not a staple. Grains and legumes were the staples and were the fuel for civilization. Wheat, rice, barley, oats, and potatoes are the fuel for humanity. When old farms had an animal, it usually had a plow behind it.

Now, I am a Roman Catholic, and people ask me why I follow a vegan diet thinking I have a religious reason for doing so. My diet is not tied to my religion, but it is not in conflict with it either. The fact is that vegetarianism has existed for centuries among monastic orders especially those following the Rule of Saint Benedict. This vegetarianism was mainly for mortification, but you can see how growing vegetables in gardens would serve as a more sustainable way of feeding monks and nuns than raising pigs and cows. This has been very successful for them. Unlike the failed Catholic Land Movement of Great Britain from a century ago, I think this monastic vegetarian model represents a more sustainable way to go for Catholics wanting to get back to the land.

Do I think Catholic homesteaders will abandon meat farming? Of course not. This usually comes after the bank forecloses on the land or someone has a coronary event. Either way, you end up in the same place. I prefer choices over consequences.

3. Mortgages and debt are homestead killers.

I am always amazed to hear homesteaders and CLM people who buy their property, supplies, and equipment with debt. That, Gentle Reader, is a recipe for disaster. Many of the farmers who went bust in the Great Depression did so as a consequence of being unable to repay their debts on homes, barns, tractors, land, and seed. This doesn't get discussed enough. If your homesteading dream requires financing, you need to let it go. You might tolerate a crop failure and bad weather, but the bank expects to get paid. It behooves you to own your stuff versus renting the money from the bank for that stuff.

4. Your adult children ain't staying to work the homestead.

Another factor that dooms the CLM is the lack of a retirement plan. Like it or not, people keep living long after their productivity has declined because of age, illness, and injury. The belief amongst trad Catholics is that their large number of children will stick around and provide the labor needed for their "golden" years. This is utterly laughable. It assumes two things. The first is that they will want to spend their years slaving away on the farm to keep feeding you. The second is that these adult children will not have their own large families to feed and support. There is a reason many left the farms for the factories and big city life. That reason has not changed.

This is also another reason to stick to backyard vegetable gardening. The garden is much kinder to the older person than working animals. Plus, you are more likely to live to be older eating plants instead of animals.

5. The Catholic Land Movement is more about the philosophy (and the fantasy) than the practicality of growing your own food.

The honest fact is that the hippie homesteaders do better than Catholic homesteaders when it comes to living off the land. Part of that comes from hippies being less meatcentric and more reality based in their strategies. Catholic Land Movement people strike me as LARPers living a fantasy on a crash course with reality. I have learned to not listen to these Chestertonians as they smoke their pipes and talk about living life in the "shire." If you want to know the real story, ask their wives and children who have to endure the fantasy they didn't choose.

Conclusion

I am 100% for living a more intentional and simpler lifestyle in conformity with your values. This is why I can agree with the desires of the Catholic Land Movement. I just disagree with the strategy. I believe in reality based strategies over fantasy based strategies. The Catholic Land Movement amounts to fighting a just war against a modern foe carrying a broadsword and dressed in a suit of armor. Until these LARPers get a clue, their movement is doomed.

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The Catholic Farm, in My Dreams and in Reality

Vegetarian sister

What Medieval Monks Ate: The Basic Monastic Diet and Special Treats

How Much to Plant for a Year’s Worth of Food

89 year old Nonno garden tour

Nonno's Epic Garden Tour 2025 | See What He's Growing!

Homegrown Revolution (Award winning short-film 2009)- The Urban Homestead, Dervaes

3.08.2026

Confessions Of A Twitter X Escapee

Here is Cardinal Sarah’s argument in a nutshell: Shut up. Seriously, just shut up.
ERIC SAMMONS

Eric Sammons is taking a break from his Twitter X addiction:

I took a break from 𝕏. Here’s what happened.

Sammons learned a few things with this break, but he is not about to break up with the platform. His issues mirror my own struggles with the platform:

Post Twitter Homesick Blues

That post from 2015 ranks as the most popular item on this blog. If I had known it would become so popular, I would have put more effort into what I wrote on it. I remember writing it originally in frustration over my addiction, and I was just ranting. But I touched a nerve back then that persists today.

I am happy to say that people are now fully aware of the hazards and harmful effects of social media (the crack) and the smartphone (the crack pipe.) Entire countries are moving or contemplating a move to ban kids from social media. On an individual level, people are trying to break free from the social media addiction. That takes me back to Mr. Sammons.

Sammons recognizes the problem, but he is not going to do anything to fix the problem. He is at the stage that I call "bargaining." This is where you think a strategy of habit modification will allow you to harness the benefits of social media without the downsides. THIS NEVER WORKS. It didn't work for me when I tried it. It doesn't work for anyone else either.

Delete your social media accounts. Trade out your smartphone for a dumbphone. This works. The problem with Mr. Sammons is that he feels the need to self-promote his content on Twitter X and respond to the events of the day. He has the same problem as a friend of mine who wants to go back to using a flip phone, but his job won't allow it. Personally, I don't buy this excuse.

The real issue people need to address is FOMO. They can't disconnect from the online world. The sad thing is that these idiots have disconnected from the real world. Just the other day, I watched a man crossing the street in my town at great peril to himself as he had his face buried in his smartphone. He couldn't even put the thing down long enough to not risk getting creamed by a potential distracted driver playing on their phone behind the wheel. This is the insanity of our world now.

The online world of social media is not the real world. It is an alternative existence that has similar effects to a mind altering drug. And it has real world consequences such as the tweet posted in a heated moment that costs you your reputation and career. It had real world consequences for me as a distracted driver put me in the hospital. I am still angry over that.

I love the internet, and I wondered why I have a positive experience with the internet now. I think Cal Newport nailed it with his distinction between the social internet and social media. The social internet is what existed before Facebook. This would be blogs and personal websites. This blog is part of that social internet. I have never wanted to be free of this blog. It has been a big part of my life for the last 20+ years. Publishing on a weekly basis has helped calm down my worst impulses as it gives me time to think carefully about what I am writing and posting. This doesn't happen on social media.

Cal Newport has never had a social media account. Yet, he has reached his audience using the old fashioned social internet. I suspect Mr. Sammons knows about Cal Newport because he mentioned "deep work" which is a Cal Newport book and concept. I recommend that Sammons find a way to engage without using social media. If a comp sci prof can do it, why can't a Catholic writer and editor?

Another issue is the definition of social media. Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram are definitely social media. Blogs, YouTube, Spotify, and reddit are not. What makes a platform social media is the engagement and the manipulation. YouTube is simply television. Spotify is the radio. Reddit is the old internet messageboard from the 1990s. Blogs and websites are the newspapers and magazines of this generation. Social media has no analog to older media. It isn't a movie theater but a gambling casino. The fact that these social media companies consulted with folks from Vegas to make their platforms more addictive is very telling.

I found Eric Sammons's article through an old but true method--the email newsletter. I didn't find it on Twitter X. Email, RSS, and Google News are how I find my content. I don't miss anything that is happening in the world. I don't have FOMO. The truth is that I usually know the news first and with more details than anyone using social media. What I do miss is a controversy on Twitter X that amounts to nothing. The social media platforms create the news now. Many news stories you read on websites amounts to copying and pasting social media shitposting. Our current president is a shitposter-in-chief. This is what passes for discourse in our age now.

I don't know if the world will reject social media and smartphones on a large scale. But no one who uses these things can deny that they are worse off for it. People still smoke, so I don't expect this widespread addiction to end anytime soon. I do expect to see more people escaping this addiction. I hope Mr. Sammons can turn his break into a breakup.

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Back to textbooks: Denmark rolls back digital learning

Cal Newport

On Social Media and Its Discontents

Digital Minimalism

Dumbphones

3.01.2026

The Gomer Pyle Rule

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
GOMER PYLE

I am not a fan of the Gomer Pyle TV show. I loved watching Andy Griffith, but that did not carry over to Gomer's spin off show. I find Gomer Pyle to be annoying and like nails on a chalkboard. I don't see the humor in his idiocy, and I felt great sympathy for Sergeant Carter for having to deal with this dumbass. But Gomer did have one stroke of genius. This was the Gomer Pyle Rule.

Basically, people have one chance to screw you. When you trust people, you are gambling on their character. You are not always going to win on this. Some people have to screw you like the proverbial scorpion on the frog's back. It is their nature. The best you can do is minimize the harm by not giving them a second chance. Even an idiot like Gomer Pyle knew not to do this.

What people fail to recognize is that you have to work to not get fooled the first time. For some reason, bad people think they are owed that first chance. It is like a "freebie" they deserve. I know people like this who just go around screwing people who don't know any better. When you question them on their integrity, they get very defensive. But they are going to screw you. They can't not screw you.

So much of what our society is today is adhering to the Gomer Pyle Rule. Those reviews on Amazon and other places can make you or break you. The sad thing is that many crooks have taken to buying the brands and reputations of other companies, products, and services in order to get around the Gomer Pyle Rule. Private equity firms are notorious for this sort of thing.

On a personal level, I have learned to cut people out of my life in accordance with the Gomer Pyle Rule. Some people have screwed me. Others never got the chance to screw me. Every single one of those people believe themselves to be innocent, trustworthy, and above reproach. This is because the biggest fool they deceive are themselves.

As for your own reputation, you are at the mercy of any fool with a mouth or a keyboard. I have learned to let it roll off me like water off a duck's back. I find that my detractors are people I refuse to let screw me or others. If they talked bad about Jesus, you're not escaping the same treatment.

As for forgiveness, I forgive everyone because I wish to be forgiven. That doesn't require me to be stupid. There is no virtue in allowing yourself to be deceived. I definitely believe in being as wise as a serpent, and the first step in that is adhering to the Gomer Pyle Rule. Gomer Pyle was an idiot, but he was no fool. He learned from his mistakes. You should, too.