The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right.
HENRY WARD BEECHER
Recently, a friend of ours was in a jam. Instead of giving her advice, we just prayed for her and her situation. That turned out better than any advice we could have given her. God turned her situation around. May He be praised.
There is a certain arrogance that comes with giving advice. This is a key reason why people don't want to ask for advice or take it when given. I have learned to keep my advice to myself. I don't think I am smart enough to fix everyone's problems. I also make a mess of things for myself, and I have concluded that I am an idiot. How I have learned anything in life is a mystery to me.
You will find wisdom and advice in the Holy Bible, but the cornerstone is to put God first in your life and observe His commandments. When people have a problem, I tell them to pray. That should always be the first words out of your mouth. The second is that you will add your prayers to their prayers. The third is to ask them to pray for you. The first great blessing of this advice is it makes you humble. God is what makes the difference and not your clever tricks.
The second thing is to remind people of what God commands. So many of our problems come from living in the wrong way. As I say, you can't go wrong doing what is right.
The last thing is to recognize those areas that are just practical. What is the best way to wash a dish? How should you kill fire ants? How do you hem a pair of pants? I love practical tips like this because they don't carry the same heaviness as telling someone how to deal with an abusive spouse.
Most people don't listen to good advice. This is infuriating because these people don't recognize our wisdom, and this wounds the pride as it should. One of the things I have discovered in life is that people gladly follow my practical advice when I demonstrate it without commentary. People love tips, tricks, and hacks. I know I do. This phenomenon proves that people actually can observe and listen. This should settle your mind about "helping" people. People know better. They choose to not do better. No one is ignorant.
You have to get used to being overlooked and ignored in life. The humble person has no problem with this. If someone asks me for advice, I just tell them what I think with the caveat that I am an idiot. Most of the time, I tell them I don't know because I don't. I recommend going to Google for the things you don't know.
Humility is the path to true wisdom. Pride is the path to folly. Be humble before God, and He will set you straight. Tell that to everyone you know and tell it to yourself.